Confidence is, of course, an important quality that every person should have. It is very important to instill this quality in early childhood, and to develop it so that an insecure child does not grow to be an indecisive, insecure, self-doubting person. Many parents cannot immediately identify that their child is not self-confident, and therefore cannot immediately help them cope with uncertainty. It is very important and necessary to cope with it until your child has grown up.
First of all, you need to observe your child's behavior at home, in kindergarten and on the playground.
There are some signs that indicate that the child feels insecure:
- During a conversation with you or other adults, they begins to look away or to speak quietly and fiddle with their clothes;
- When a child is asked about something, they avoid answering;
- they becomes irritable and get angry when strangers are near them;
- if a child is assigned a task, they are afraid that they are unable to cope and do not want to take responsibility;
- the child tries to choose an easier job or task, as they are afraid of facing difficulties;
- they begin to panic before starting a new project;
- the child has some fears or phobias;
- they begin to be shy when meeting new people and while communicating with a new person;
- they lack their own opinion;
- when writing letters or during drawing, they hold the pencil awkwardly and press on it weakly;
- a loss of stature appears;
- At times they become aggressive when there is no reason to behave badly.
If you suddenly noticed such signs in your child, then you need to help them to develop their self-confidence.
We offer you some recommendations as to how to help your child improve self-confidence.
- never try to compare your child with other children.
You should compare your child only with themselves-what they were yesterday, and what they have become today.
- show interest in the things they do, their successes or failures. Always praise your son or daughter for their small achievements, as this is very important to children.
- Do not tell the child that they are stupid or that they don't have any talents. Do the opposite. Your task is to instill faith in your child, to say that you believe in them and their successes.
- Show them that adults also make mistakes, and they also need the support of a loved one.
- criticism should not outweigh praise. Do not talk with other people about your child’s failures in the presence of your child.
- if you criticize them, you need to criticize not their person, but their behavior. For example: "Biting is bad," and not 'you are a bad son or a bad daughter'.
- Give your child the right to choose and the right to have their opinion. Show them that you value their opinion and that it is very important to you. Be sure to teach your child to express their point of view.
- there is no need to rush with help if suddenly they have some difficulties, let them make decisions by themselves.
- there is no need to isolate the child from communication with their peers.
You can invite their friends to visit you, or go to visit their friends, arrange holidays for children and take your child to events.
- if your child plays with younger children, then in no case you should be discourage this. This is how they begin to build self-confidence.
- in no case should you shout at or beat a child!
Talk more often with the little one closely, and listen to all they say. Tell them that you love them and appreciate them for who they are. Show an interest in their life, mood and feelings. Set your child only those goals that can reasonably be achieved. Be sure to teach them to think positively.
Always try to be an example to your child in everything.