The relationship between parents and children is a complex and important process. Each parent dreams that these relationships are trusting and friendly, that the child hears and listens to them and shares their experiences. And of course, every parent wants to learn how to better negotiate with their young one during conflict situations. So how do you do it and get it right? Let's figure it out!
One of the most important points is the amount of attention paid to your child. All children need the attention of a loved one in sufficient quantity. During the relationship between parents and the child, the child's development occurs. The time together can be spent in different ways: you can play, read, walk, sculpt, draw, cook delicious food or just look out of the window and talk. The main thing is that you are doing it together. This can be a devoted time of 20-30 minutes a day. If your child does not obey or does not want to do something - these are signs that they lack your attention and spending more time together will help solve this situation.
Learn to listen your child. Most often, mothers and fathers are constantly trying to explain something, give advice, persuade or order. If you do this all the time, children will stop hearing you.
Your task is to learn to listen to your child and make them feel that they have been heard. Which are the things that most parents say? “Don’t eat snow, you’ll get sick”, “Go and wash your hands before your dinner”, etc. Instead of repeating the exact same phrase, try saying it in a different way. For example: “What do you think will happen if you eat snow?” Or, “Why do you think we need to wash our hands before eating?” If you talk with a child in a conversational way, and not in a way which gives orders, they will see that their opinion is very important to you and that you are listening. When you ask leading questions in a communicative way, this is very good, because you are contributing to the development of your child at the same time.
It is very important to accept both the positive and negative emotions of your children.
After all, a child, just like everyone else, can be angry, upset, sad or afraid of something. The child has the right to express their emotions, they should have a place. And during such emotional outbursts, parents should stay with their child, helping them to cope with these feelings. Try to understand what your child is experiencing in these moments, tell them that you know how they feel, instead of lecturing and giving advice, just share this emotion with your child. This is how your child becomes closer to you, and the next time they will share their feelings instead of keeping them inside.
Remember to say thank you to your child and encourage them in the things they do - it brings people closer together. At the same time, they will learn to respond to gratitude mutually. Focus on the positive qualities of your child.
Set goals to achieve, together with your child. Do them daily and then the child will understand that achieving a goal is a necessary and important moment in their life.
Children understand everything, including when they are offended. If you offend them, you should admit your guilt and ask your child to forgive you. It is important to show respect for each other.
Every child is a little person with their own character. You need to accept them as they are because there is a reason why your child appeared in your life.
Live all the most important moments with your child. It could be competitions, matinees in kindergarten or numerous other activities. They will forever remain in the memory of your child, as the warmest and kindest moments from their childhood.
Always be honest with them and they will be honest back.
Give your son or daughter the opportunity to choose friends by themselves. Let their friends come to visit, this is how you will become familiar with the friends of your children and their parents. Find out what they like and join in with them.
It's no secret that different family traditions make the family more united. Create such traditions for your family and try keep them up.
It is very important that every parent should remember to never discuss their children with other people, and especially in the presence of the children. Parents should always give their children confidence and support.
We really hope that all these recommendations help you to become closer to your children and you can develop a mutual trust in one another.