How do you teach a child to put their toys away after they have been playing? Every parent asks themselves this question, because it is a very difficult thing to achieve, but it is possible to teach a child to keep things in order.
Children begin to understand their parents from when they are less than one year old. During this period, the child can bring an object from its place and after they are a year old, you can ask the child to put the toy back in the place from where they took it. At this age, the child calmly perceives such requests, but older children may express their disagreement and be capricious.
It is always good to explain to the child that before taking the next toy, they need to put first one back in its place-but do not forbid them from playing with two toys at the same time. For example, if the child built something from a construction kit and then decided to do something creative, you do not need to ask them to remove their construction first.
The older a child gets, the greater the chance that they will begin to refuse requests for tiding up toys after they have been playing. When doing this, your child watch you, looking at what your reaction will be if they don’t do what you asked.
You need to try to maintain your position and repeat the request without raising your voice and also offer your help.
If the child still does not agree to carry out your request, then do not force them.
Very soon, when your child wants something else, you can offer to give them what they want but only after they have done what you have been asking them to do. Make sure that you offer to help! And if help is necessary, it will speed up the cleaning process and improve the relationship between you and your child.
If there are a lot of toys scattered around the room, then it is better to divide the tasks. For example, first remove the car in the garage, then the cubes, the construction kit and so on. Be sure to praise the child and tell them that they have done well and will be able to cope with everything. Support and assistance from parents is very important for your child.
If the child continues to be stubborn and does not want to put away the toys, then you can try another way. Tell them that you will remove the toys by yourself, but then they will not see them for several days. If this technique doesn’t’t work you must put the toys away and remove them as promised. You should then give the toys back when you have agreed on this and not be persuaded by your child’s pressure and persuasion. When you give the toys back, stress to your child that after playing, the toys should be put back into their correct place.
There is also another possible solution: provide a container or a box and tell your child that any toys which are not removed in the agreed time will be put into this container. Be sure to remind your child about the time constraint. Those toys which your child did not remove in the specified time should be put in a container for the agreed number of days.
Show by your own example that you are keeping your house clean and tidy. When you are doing the cleaning offer jobs so that your child can help. The most important thing is not to force them, instead encourage them so that they are gradually involved.
Ensure that you provide a place in which your child can place and store their toys which is both accessible and convenient, so that they have easy access to them.
If you decide to teach your child to be tidy, then ensure that you do it regularly-every day, not just from time to time.
Demonstrate everything with your own example, as children copy the behavior of adults.
Be persistent: First clean and then offer your child a reward as way of encouragement.
If you want your children to get used to making order so that it becomes habitual, then they must be taught these things from early childhood.
What you shouldn’t you do:
• Do not force the child to clean using threats or coercion.
• You shouldn’t blame the child if they can’t do the job you have given
• Do not expect perfection from your child-they are small and may not able to meet exact expectations.
Remember that children are our reflection and they copy us in everything. Do not forget to praise, encourage and to say thank-you for their help. Tell them how much you love your them-it is very important for children.