In every mum’s life, there comes a moment when she needs to go to work, continue her studies, or to begin to do other things, and the child will have to stay with someone else. And here appears a difficult question. What to do: find a nanny for the child or put them into a kindergarten? How do you do this in the right way and make it as least traumatic as it possible?
Let us try to understand all the pros and cons of the nanny versus a kindergarten:
• One of the main benefits of a kindergarten is that it can teach a child how to communicate with their peers both in a team and individually. Going on a visit or taking your child to a playground cannot be compared with kindergarten. In teams, children learn to play role-playing games, not only with their parents, but with children of their own age. They learn how to make friends and find people who are similar people to them through the games.
• Understanding boundaries and rules. In kindergarten, a child learns discipline. The kindergarten has its own daily routine: eating, walking, playing games and taking part in activities. All this helps to organize the child’s timetable.
• Children learning good manners. Each small team has its own rules and rituals. For example, to say hello, to say goodbye, to thank, to refer to adults as “Mr. or Mrs.”
Kindergartens teach good manners. They also show children how to tidy up after a game, how to hang their clothes in the wardrobe and how to wash hands before eating. All these things are considered normal. Such tasks are built into daily routines and soon become automatic.
• Kindergarten helps the child to open up emotionally. Not every child is comfortable standing up and saying a poem in front of others. But by a certain age, even those who are most shy and initially refused to separate from their parents, are willing to take part in saying a poem or performing a dance with other children. All children are involved in theatrical performances, dancing and singing and these activities help to develop skills and the coincidence to not be afraid to perform in public.
• Kindergarten teaches children to share toys, help each other, wait for their turn and perform as a team.
• Kindergarten prepares a child for school. There are many activities such as drawing, modeling, mathematics, learning a foreign language, speech development, familiarization with the outside world, music, physical education and swimming. All these classes are held every day according to a specially designed program. Also in kindergarten, educators teach children how to hold a pencil, draw geometric shapes, and cut. All classes last for 20 - 30 minutes.
These forms of classes train assiduity in the child, which is very useful in school. Every day a speech therapist deals with students, where necessary. Not every parent will be able to work with their child every day, and there are some children who do not want to study at home, but in kindergarten they are ready to learn in a specifically designed environment.
• In kindergarten, children are mobile and active. They do not sit in one place for long periods watching cartoons as they do at home. They do morning exercises every day before breakfast. Physical education classes are held 2-3 times a week, in which children learn to jump, climb stairs, catch a ball, twist a hoop and much more.
• Kindergarten teaches a child to be independent. Most importantly, the child learns to cope with different goals by themselves. They are taught how to dress, to put on shoes, to go to the toilet, to eat, to make order with their toys after the game, to take care of their own things.
Of course, the whole learning process is not always going to be smooth. In kindergarten, children sometimes push, call names, loudly and noisily defend their opinions and take away toys from each other. But, by experiencing these things, children learn to stand up for themselves, to share, to speak and formulate their requests. At the same time there are some children as young as 2 years’ old who are perfectly adapted to private kindergartens.
If your child is under 3 years old and has some issues with development, be it psychological or physiological, then it is better to employ a nanny until they are ready for kindergarten. You can then give your nanny specific instructions and requirements to meet the developmental needs of your child.
However, finding a qualified nanny is very difficult. It is important that she not only has a pedagogical education, but that she has a good relationship with all family members, so that they and the child can find a common language. It is also imperative that children of preschool age have correct daily routines and rules.
If the child is active and sociable, then they could be bored with a nanny, and extra development classes will not provide the child with opportunity to run, jump and play with children of their own age.
The choice remains with the parent, and they must decide for themselves what is most suitable for their child. After all, is it mum and dad who know what is best for their child.